May I Sit With My Husband?

May I Sit With My Husband?

EntranceSegregation of the sexes is still a live social custom in the UAE. It is not uncommon to see separate entrances and waiting areas for men and women. I’ve encountered this many places to include the Immigration and Emerites ID offices, the medical clinic and there are even separate mosques for men and women to pray. It perplexes me a bit because Emerati women are already covered and the sexes almost always see eachother if inside the same venue. In my opinion, the only place where separate areas was truly necessary was at the Emerites ID office. Some of the ladies removed a layer or two of their adornments to take ID pictures. In this case, the separate areas eliminated the possibility of a man seeing an Emerati woman while “indecent”. That’s understandable. For more information visit penis enlargement without pills.

When we took my son to see a doctor at Khaleej clinic, we were met by signs directing visitors towards two separate entrances; one for men and the other for women. The problem is that we were together, coming as a unit regarding the care of a minor. Where was the entrance for that I wondered. We entered through the appropriate doors and I took my son with me. Once inside, I could hear my husband explaining to the desk attendant that he wanted to be reconnected with his wife and son. He was given permission to join me on the lady’s side. After he checked us in we were directed to have a seat and wait to be called. As we approached the waiting area, I noticed there were two adjacent seating areas, separated by a thin, slightly transparent partition. Each side of the partition was labeled with a printed 8.5×11 sign. In a fun, blue font with rounded corners, one sign read, “Women’s Waiting Area” and the other, “Men’s Waiting Area”. Huh? I thought in a moment of clear confusion. If each side has a separate seating area for men and women, why did it matter which door we entered through? *shrugs* We chose seats and began to wait.

We were the first to be seated. Shortly thereafter, I looked up and several Emerati women, covered by hijabs and abayas, approached the seating area. We could only see their eyes and the soles of their shoes. One sat down for about 30 seconds and then quickly retreated to a corner with the others. Within a few minutes of them leaving a nurse came over to speak with us. We thought she was calling us back to have the baby seen so we started preparing to leave the area. Instead she told us to move to the other seating area. My husband, who’d already been told that it was okay for us to sit together, expressed opposition. The nurse persisted and explained that it was okay for us to sit together but only in the male section. We were seated together in the female section. Begrudgingly, we moved and here’s why…First, the directions should have been clearly stated from the moment my husband made the request to be seated with me. Second, their women are covered. What was he going to see sitting five feet away from them that he couldn’t see sitting ten feet away from them?

Clearly, the women had gone to complain about us being seated together in the female section. But what was it really about I wonder. Were they simply sticklers for the rules? Did they have a problem being near my dark skinned husband? Or were they so self important that they believed he took pleasure in eyeballing their all black garments? At this point, I will never know but at least I understand clearly what the conditions are to be seated with my husband. It is true that you can not read minds, learn how and read psychic source reviews.

4 thoughts on “May I Sit With My Husband?

  1. It is experiences like these that should be shared. Many of us have not had the ability to travel to other countries and it is interesting to learn about their culture through your blog. I have mixed feelings about this situation. I do agree with one of the comments. Our culture allows anything to go today. I think it is great that they stay true to their beliefs but I cannot imagine how I would have handled this situation if it were me and my husband. Keep sharing. . .

  2. My sweetness,

    While I agree with much of the previous comments, I want to encourage and edify you for staying true to your beliefs and the higher authority that you represent.

    Yes, our country has taken on every kind of despicable act that one could fathom for the simple sake of acceptance! However, I believe that at the end of your experience (good, bad and indifferent) in Abu Dhabi, you will not only run home to return to your country, but you will find that it is still the greatest nation to reside.

    While Middle Eastern countries tend to appear to have it together from a moral and firm traditional perspective – they are far from it. You will also find that their culture has a commonality with ours; they tend to focus more on the outer garment (the shell of a man/woman) than the inner entity that lies within and that my dear is a travesty within itself.

    So yes, respect their policies and rules that governs, but never lose who you are and take this experience to utilize as a tool to develop, educate and empower others as you have so eloquently started via this blog.

  3. I clearly understand you daughter in law but be very careful re your commentaries. You are not in Kansas anymore.

  4. Girl, when in Rome…

    It may not make sense to us but their traditions/beliefs are rooted in thousands of years of history. While I (as a woman) do not appreciate the 2nd class citizen treatment of women in Abu Dhabi, I have to admire the fact that despite how the world changes, some people hold fast to their traditions. I certainly wouldn’t want to be covered head to toe, but I feel bad that our culture seems to have lost all sense of modesty and decency. Anything goes here. Children in midriffs & baby heels, men sagging with their entire asses out, and women with their breasts & booties showing is the “norm” and it’s disgusting. I’m far from a prude but we need to dial it back.

    We are so used to things being challenged in the US until finally the laws or social norms are changed. I admire the fact that the people of Abu Dhabi do not let the outside world influence them to change. No matter how archaic their ways may seem and no matter the faces I make when reading about your experiences, I really am trying not to do what Americans tend to do best—judge. The “melting pot” is full of ethnocentric people and our judgey-wudgey ways. I cannot imagine your frustration at having to deal with certain aspects of Abu Dhabi culture. Especially when it seems absurd or downright disrespectful to you as a woman. But you’re in their “house” and their ways have to be respected. My facial expressions betray me so even if I held my tongue, I’d have to work on not giving side eyes and appearing disrespectful. You’re going to learn and grow so much from this experience and I hope u don’t lose your tongue from biting it so often lol.

    The women who complained about a man being in the women’s area might not have known he was granted permission. Or maybe they were afraid. With the way some of those women are treated for “disrespecting” their men, I would have been yelling for SECURRITAY to toss a man of there with the quickness lol.

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